He Wants To Have Sex More Often Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. If you respect your husband and his needs ISA he will respect yours. And I- as a man- am glad I was raised in a civilized way, and have the ability to control my instincts and aspire to something more. Asalam o Alakum They are rather contradicting statements. Dear questioner! Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Allaah has Noor was recently married. It You need to make taubah and try to learn more. Same goes for a man: he can be infertile without being impotent. The men who want to do the second marriage should be carefully thought through. Most of comments are pointing to second marriage and bla bla. I am not Muslim, however I respect/support his beliefs and the teachings/love of Allah. If you are fortunate enough to find a man who is of good character and is religiously committed, then you have been blessed with something good. He would say his family is who give birth to him and he grow up with Im just woman he marry. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. That my way is a little cliche, and sterotypical but none the less, he still loves me. seriously good points you have mentioned here. when you bring it out again after all these years hell surely become again that fantasy sixteen year old you might have previously resorted to when he sheepishly said oops sorry just seems i aint in the mood luv. tell him. Chapter 4, Verse 34. I have always thought that I would never allow my husband to marry again, however this article has reinforced wat was in my subconscious which is; who am I to dictate to my husband against the word of the quraan so after reading this I now admit to my acceptance if I should ever experience a case like this,, who knows I may just find myself in the shoes of the second, third or fourth wife. ALLAH know everything but we dont. The second rule if you want to do a second marriage in Islam, make sure you as a man can do justice. 4.What guarantee do you have that You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. arguments arise amongst them, which turn the marital relationship into an if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. Source: Why is it always about how men are and how we shld respect them , when they never respect us they take Us women for granted . The article asks women to respect their husbands but the final point says if he doesnt say I love you its alright, he still loves you. He is not interested in physical affection anymore. thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby.. I have to stay with my parents. . As salaam alaikum, I will not stand for it! Should I demand respect at all times from him or should I allow him a bad day? That is the reason why Islam has prohibited monasticism. You said it !! he wants to marry me but he said what if there was a 2nd one? Id understand if it were for a womans survival purposes but never for pleasure. JAK for this comment! The mind is what you will live with for fifty years. because the husband might demand sex and the wife would be refusing it due to her fasting. It really bothers me. A Muslim mans guide is the Prophet peace be upon him. i am conservative about my appearance and how I dress. I agree with you 100% Kay. Some things may be hard to swallow for us women, but Allah swt Created us this way, so rather empower yourself with this knowledge and understanding, than bemoan and question the way of things. I call that rape. what if a woman has more than average desire. Pathetic. And the reward in the next life for encouraging your husband to the truth. If you can stop fantasizing about your future wives that is. Think about this please. It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their This article is hilarious and so made for men who need to control and own their wife. 1 - Her husband's marrying another wife is regarded as a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning" [al-Zumar 39:10] be attracted to men, and this inclination sometimes results in haraam May Allah help you get the right understanding and stand firm on the Straight Path! But we need to understand the spirit of the Islamic ruling first. this second wife issue is not for fun as many men want to believe. You need to put it in your marriage contract that you want a second wife. It is a general misconception amongst Muslimah wherein they think it will be by their approval which will be required for their man to marry another woman or have more than one wife. I read most of the post over here I am a muslim man. Why? The dream about your husband is a good omen, foretelling some pleasant events. Your right to them is that they do not allow anyone you hate to step on your stretch. bestowed all these blessings upon you, so what you should do is be grateful I am extremely hurt, i dont know how to deal with his i want to divorce for hi happiness as he made me feel im extremely bad wife. I pray to Allah Taaalaa that he gives us all the understanding of how a true Muslim should behave and that he forgives us all for all the wrong we have done in life, allowing us to die with strong Imaan and in the end enter us into Jannatul Firdaus. I felt I could cope with not having someone around all the time," she tells me. Yes it says in the quran that men can have four wives, but it is for a reason, and the quran is written in such a way that you can argue Kays point. If it were me, its then that I would not be available for him at that given time. Men are the guardians of women. failure after only a few months, because they are based on a weak I was told by an Asian Muslim woman that we Westerners have a problem with understanding the principle of sharing a husband. There are even Hadiths that say that it would destroy the marriage if the woman took the role of the man and vice versa. In Western society it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. What does a women do then ??? I so desperately wanted it to work out. Excellent and so so true! So please dont act like its forced on you, on the contrary you DO need to ask your wife for permission before taking another wife. U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. The unending complaints of adultery, abuse and bad behavior is considered normal these days. I started feeling he only wants few things from me I must be there with him on bed whenever he wants it I must cook food for him I must do all the household things and inreturn he couldnt console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally. Wife, lover, mother, doctor, housekeeper. Which is more than enough of a condition to stop most men from marrying number 2. I love Islam and if I can't accept the polygamy issue, does it mean that I am not ready to convert? It is allowed in Islam and he does not need permission. I follow no religion, was raised christian. There is a reason why the majority of the inhabitants in Jahannam are women. Mentally. However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. Ameen. He and his family were treating me very unfairly, insults, etc. She left her home,bears your name,married to you,people know her by your name,and till the end she would be known by your name,still you would doubt her being not loyal to you or obedient? A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. When I met her, she was a person, a woman like me. He was a good person, good akhlaq and very pious. Will Allah still be angry with me if I stop having any feeling for him? I loved it all. her husband under ordinary circumstances. reasons: 1 Her husbands marrying another wife is regarded as a test you enjoy the pleasure of living Thank you. This is a clause usually ignored or taken lightly by many men, depriving women the rights Allah Almighty has granted. All people (expect those nonhumans) deserve respect. good advice. 1. I have been divorced two times. but maybe you need to coax the poor little guy back into life, remember that little number he used to drive you crazy about all those years ago. dream and the like, these are usually illusionary matters on which no shari Sounds like a rough deal, I dont see how any of this would make a woman feel proud. Where are the unending advices to men about the dangers of treating their wives like property, second class citizens or servants? Do not punish, condemn, and boycott your wives. Thank God I have my career and my own income so Im not walked on by my muslim husband. there are many ways a man can help and support other womans without having to marry them and having any relationships. You have to live your life to the fullest and your children deserve a safe and loving environment to grow up in, not one in which their beloved mother is abused. It is tge complete right of a woman if she doesnt want to live with his husband afterwards. Im really not in the mood.. Dont do it, if a man is already thinking of another woman even before marrying you, he obviously cant be all that in love with you, sorry :(. 03 June, 2018 Q I am a career woman married for 13 years and have a child. I really like your article however there are some contradictions in it. of reaching you or your family or children. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. "In 2019 my husband admitted to being in love with this woman and he sends her money from time to time and also claims to be the godfather of her children." Sun, Jan 15, 2023 LOGIN Subscribe for $1 We have to accept and love the ways Allah has rolled it down for us . This reward is in addition to the womans reward for obeying Serve you to God in the matters of wives, for you take them with the message of Allah and you make their halal cults with the words of Allah. I think the writer of this article is a bit misinformed. Just make sure you know yours before getting involved with someone and be honest and to show your intentions. to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family The writer is just writing on what is happening in our society. There would be more than four million females in Great Britain 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband. Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this.? My husband gets alot of inbox messages from facebook from different women all the time. I really enjoyed it and may Allah bless the author,amin. He wasn't by my side, not even one bit. A father should be responsible for the life of his children even though he has separated from the mother. This is a sign of their lack of reason and religious Society has changed and you shouldn't quit your job because your husband is being selfish by not giving you space. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. If you want more advice on marriage watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI by Yasir Qadhi. I feel like our private parts are purchased and we are simply paid vaginas that have to be available for sex 100% of the time regardless of our feelings. loves Al-Muhsinoon (the gooddoers). However, this is not the only opinion or interpretation of how to do this. I so agree with you I was shocked to see how lightly da matter was put up like its no big deall. walan ta3delo, so as it says at the beginning of surat al-nisa , One wife is Better if you cannot treat them equally. Yes, your husband has to take permission from you to marry another woman. If it dont kill you then it can only make you stronger!!!! Thats what they wont tell you. alhamdulillah we were blessed with a lill princess.hubby has changed since I gave birth to our bby.he would touched me whenever he want.he loves kids so do I.i thought maybe its because he was tired thats why he refused to sleep with me in 3 to 4 days..after that he would come n touched me again.now I had to undergo an abortion. i really like this article. Just my observation. Thank you. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. Its quite understood that a man or a woman who doesnt respect or fulfill his or her spouses needs (whatever they maybe) on purpose gains Allahs displeasure. We do not like our father to have another wife, women also hate their husbands to marry again but thats because it is no longer part of todays lifestyle in many societies but if people get used to it as for example if every one have more than a wife then it will not be a big deal I think. Our teachings go back a very long time, what Allah has given the Prophet (PBUH) to teach us is final, to question it is not right.equality is important, and we are taught that. 5. JazakhAllah khyr this was very true an helpful. Love or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?. If she is married, then such a Suck it up or leave him. 1. sorry but it aint your decision if he goes to hell or not, in fact if allowing him to marry keeps your marriage together, then abundant hassanat will fall on you, in fact more to you than to your husband. I think the author has done a nice job. If a man is able to take a second wife, physically and financially, and he can treat both wives in a just manner, and he wants to, then he is allowed to do so according to Islam. This does not mean husbands have the right to force their wives to engage in sex. guarantee that it will not happen again? If a woman refuses to have sex with her husband, maybe her husband should ask why she is doing this and actually listen to what she says. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. The threat of a husband who can not be fair, Men who already have two wives, then he should be able to support them fairly. (second) marriage will make him more chaste and prevent him from doing Does that mean I can demand a sandwich? But the permission of plural marriage is given in the context of protecting widows, as they need to be taken care of. on our wedding night my nri husband told me he is in love with another woman; : NRI - ' ' . In Islam, of course, this is permissible if the wife approves her husband wishes. (2) The lady is trying to get her daughter married. Women feel the same way, have a bit of respect. 5. I just want to know how a potential husband would react to this and would he be angry or frustrated and would this be a bad start to a marriage? I was devastated by his sudden death. assalam o alaikum, SUBHAN ALLAH thank u bro for sharing such a nice and meaning full message, very good job,JAZAK ALLAH,,,,,,,,and pray for me m searching a bride for me. i understand now whyand hope that we can adjust to each other more. Dont keep threatening him with words, you need to show you mean it and do it. We have been married for 18 years. Most men wont admit it, but we do need women.